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Facing Codependence

Buy it, read it, heal. Dec 06, Laura Walsh rated it it was amazing Shelves: Jan 10, Bread Crumbs rated it really liked it Shelves: The focuses on defining and recognizing codependence rather than how to correct it which I had been expecting I hadn’t wanted to read this book but it was recommended to me so I finally read through it. I’m so sad I missed learning from her directly. Recovery from codependence, therefore, involves clearing up the toxic emotions left over from these painful childhood experiences.

So much of what Pia writes about in this book hit home for me, especially the part where she emphasizes that trauma isn’t just about the huge life events that we think of when we hear the word “Trauma,” but also about all the little traumas that add up to have a profound impact on our lives.

Facing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes from, How It Sabotages Our Lives

The sole redeeming thing about this book is that it is an accurate portrayal of abuse and how it runs through families. It is essentially a handbook of “what is normal” for people raised in severely dysfunctional families.

Central to Mellody’s approach is the concept that the codependent adult’s injured inner child needs healing. It also had a good discussion on boundaries and what good boundaries look like. Much has been written about codependency but Pia Mellody nails it in Facing Codependence: Because codependence is not officially a disorder or disease in the DSM-IV, the author uses her personal experience, as well as working therapeutically with ppia people with similar characteristics, to define it.


The books text appears to be clean. A very friendly and honestly written book; but the style of writing can become repetitive and dull over the chapters.

What makes Biblio different? Leaves facinng very clean. Based on the title of the book, Pia Mellody accomplishes her goal: Also, I disagree with some other things in the book, such as a disregard for the issues of race one mention of race is made and especially class. Revised and Updated With OverCopies Sold Pia Mellody creates a framework for identifying codependent thinking, emotions and behaviour and provides an effective approach to recovery.

Facing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes from, How It Sabotages Our Lives by Pia Mellody

There were a few small items I could identify with, however I was left with a sense of at my problems aren’t that bad at all and lots of it was irrelevant to me This book also gives the best definition of boundaries I have come across yet and how it can impact not only how one relates or interacts with other people but also one’s own boundaries with the self.

The sheer numbers were overwhelming. For instance, if someone has too high of a self-esteem, that is an illustration of codependency, and if someone has too low of a self-esteem, that also is an illustration of codependency.

Recovery is achieved by learning to re-parent oneself. Jan 27, Frrobins rated it did not like it. Paperbackpages.

WIthout going into too much detail, I came to really understand and even agree with Mellody’s view of how a parent can influence a child and how the child has the capacity to recover from abusive influence, whether intentional or not. See a complete review at lauralwalsh. Her recovery work-shops have benefited people all over the world and her bestselling books have been translated into many languages.

Facing Codependence by Pia Mellody

When I first started it, I was really put off by the idea that the reason behind codependence was rooted in child abuse, be it sexual, verbal, intellectual, spiritual, or emotional. Published April 29th by HarperOne first published Mellody sets forth five primary adult symptoms of this crippling condition, then traces their origin to emotional, spiritual, intellectual, physical and sexual abuses that occur in childhood.

According to this book, it means someone who cannot establish self esteem from who they are independent of what they can do for others, it means someone who has trouble establishing boundaries.


The author recommends starting to figure out what work you need to do in a very honest manner and then join a Step Program. This distinction Many addicts who have read this book will claim that almost the whole world population is codependent.

Keith Miller Limited preview – Having said that the points pertaining to how to stop the cycle and be a better parent to your children are things that were useful and practical and made me think lots of problems in the world could be solved if there was great access to better parenting classes – before one becomes a parent – although this might do JoJo out of a job!

This was an amazing story of an administrator at a substance abuse facility who had to face her own addictive cycle — codependency. It seemed what she described was more of a pattern of maladaptive behaviors.

Other editions – View all Facing Codependence: Many addicts who have read this book will claim that almost the whole world population is codependent. Refresh and try again.

This book is 25 years old. Additionally, if you didn’t have substance-abusers in your immediate family, but your parents may have when they were growing up, your parents still could’ve coddependence I found this book tremendously useful and informative. Return to Book Page. Even as a seasoned therapist of nearly 10 years, this book opened my eyes to the insidious nature of different kinds of abuse I had not given much thought to before.

Traces the origins of melloyd illness back to childhood, describing a whole range of emotional, spiritual, intellectual, physical, and sexual abuses. Account Options Sign in. My library Help Advanced Book Search. Reading this book became a Making Sense of Cultural Studies: